Love and dating advice
I have a nervous personality, so I need someone who can tell me to relax.I’m very social and I love entertaining, so I need someone who can hold their own and have a conversation without me around.A relationship should be filled with joy, laughter, and love—whether you’re 22 or 46.The divorce rate in America is somewhere between 42% and 50%, so when you’re in your 30s, you are going to date people who are divorced.Instead, focus on what is happening now and look where you are going next.When you’ve been in a lot of unsuccessful relationships, a natural defense mechanism is to put your guard up.Wanting all of these things is okay, but grilling every person you date to see if they have what it takes to fulfill your expectations is not.
When you’re in your 30s, it’s much easier to become jaded and bitter; so many relationships have not worked out that you can start to think it’s never going to happen.
Sit down with a pad and pen, and write down the names of the last couple of people you’ve dated.
Next to each name, list the top five things you liked about them and the top five things you didn’t like about them. Read it carefully and you’ll probably notice that there are repetitive descriptors on the list.
The playing field is narrower; if you want kids, the biological clock is ticking; and as you’re older, you’re naturally carrying around a lot more baggage. One of my girlfriends is 35 and she just married a 27-year-old.
The number of single friends is dwindling, so there is also more pressure to be coupled up. Their relationship works because they are madly in love, and they support each other in the ways that they both need to be supported.